My ex was the worst person I've ever known. Not because of all the horrible things he did to me, but because it was just so easy for him to lie cheat and steal from me with very little remorse. He was the lowst of the low, like a snake, but here's the thing about snakes...
A snake is always nice to the mouse until the trusting mouse gets too close and then BANG! Two fangs in the neck. Now the snake may show great remorse for what he has done. He may cry and say that he considered the mouse to be his little friend. But the problem is the the snake will do the same thing over and over again.
Why is because he is a snake, and that's what snakes do. It is their nature. Sometimes a mouse may jump back and escape, but then the snake sobs and says how sorry he is. He says "please forgive me! I don't know what came over me?" The mouse falls for the tears and is then bitten and swallowed whole. Then the snake hates himself for eating him, but he is a snake and that is what he does.
There are people all around us that manipulate and destroy us because that is what they do. My ex was this type of person. It didn't matter how many wonderful things I did for him, he still ended up sunking his poisenous fangs into my heart. Take a lesson from me, someone who has been through it, no matter how much he may cry and feel bad about it, if you fall for the tears, say good bye to your dreams of having a happy life together. It's better to end the relationship before things get out of hand because you will get caught in their spider web of evil and they will not be happy until they suck the life out of you!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Love is Blind
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. . .And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-13
Love is all of the above things, but love will also make you do crazy things or let you allow others to do crazy things to you. When your mind, body, and heart tells you that you love someone, that love for them can consume you completely and turn you into someone you're not if the relationship is unbalanced. I've experienced a love like this recently and my experience tells me that it's better to have loved and lost than to try to hold on and wait until it crashes and burns.
For those of you who may be blinded by love, there are warning signs you just have to pay attention. If you ever notice ANY RED FLAGS, you may want to proceed with extreme caution before you get your feelings involved. Some warning signs can be over looked if a person is honorable and has good intentions.
But how can you tell when a person is honorable or that they have good intentions? I don't have all the answers, but chances are that if a person has had a troubled past, they probably have a few issues they need to work out before they get involved in a relationship (that doesn't mean you can't date just don't make any commitments when there's a chance the person you're dating could have questionable characteristics). But that person may also be a selfish ignorant bastard and want to drag you down with all their baggage and drama (the saying is true, misery loves company), so in that case you won't know what you've gotten yourself into until it's too late!
You can't change someone's attitude or behavior after only a couple of months of dating. And sometimes, that person is just a lost cause, and no matter how much you love/care for them, they will never be able to love you back because they are DAMAGED GOODS and don't really know how to love! If you feel that you are dating someone who's issues are this severe, BREAK UP and get away from your partner as fast as you can!!!
No matter how much they beg or plead with you for forgiveness, or how many promises they make swearing they're going to change, never take them back after he/she has violated your trust or disrespected you or the commitment they made to you. The relationship and your feelings mean very little to your partner if they can't be a decent human being and KEEP IT REAL! Chances are that if they are lying, cheating, and behaving disrespectfully now, or have done so in the past, they have very little regard for the feelings of others, and this will likely never change, so end the relationship now before this evil tyrant ruins your life.
"Evil people know full well how to make us feel good and how to manipulate us so that they can gain power and control over us. The Bible says let light expose the bad things. Evil people want their secrets inside them. "If you are a good person you will meet many evil people in your life, you need to recognize them and their actions. More importantly you need to recognize which evil behaviors you have been conned into excepting as reasonable and to reject those behaviors - both in yourself and in others - as unacceptable." - R. Canup
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Love is all of the above things, but love will also make you do crazy things or let you allow others to do crazy things to you. When your mind, body, and heart tells you that you love someone, that love for them can consume you completely and turn you into someone you're not if the relationship is unbalanced. I've experienced a love like this recently and my experience tells me that it's better to have loved and lost than to try to hold on and wait until it crashes and burns.
For those of you who may be blinded by love, there are warning signs you just have to pay attention. If you ever notice ANY RED FLAGS, you may want to proceed with extreme caution before you get your feelings involved. Some warning signs can be over looked if a person is honorable and has good intentions.
But how can you tell when a person is honorable or that they have good intentions? I don't have all the answers, but chances are that if a person has had a troubled past, they probably have a few issues they need to work out before they get involved in a relationship (that doesn't mean you can't date just don't make any commitments when there's a chance the person you're dating could have questionable characteristics). But that person may also be a selfish ignorant bastard and want to drag you down with all their baggage and drama (the saying is true, misery loves company), so in that case you won't know what you've gotten yourself into until it's too late!
You can't change someone's attitude or behavior after only a couple of months of dating. And sometimes, that person is just a lost cause, and no matter how much you love/care for them, they will never be able to love you back because they are DAMAGED GOODS and don't really know how to love! If you feel that you are dating someone who's issues are this severe, BREAK UP and get away from your partner as fast as you can!!!
No matter how much they beg or plead with you for forgiveness, or how many promises they make swearing they're going to change, never take them back after he/she has violated your trust or disrespected you or the commitment they made to you. The relationship and your feelings mean very little to your partner if they can't be a decent human being and KEEP IT REAL! Chances are that if they are lying, cheating, and behaving disrespectfully now, or have done so in the past, they have very little regard for the feelings of others, and this will likely never change, so end the relationship now before this evil tyrant ruins your life.
"Evil people know full well how to make us feel good and how to manipulate us so that they can gain power and control over us. The Bible says let light expose the bad things. Evil people want their secrets inside them. "If you are a good person you will meet many evil people in your life, you need to recognize them and their actions. More importantly you need to recognize which evil behaviors you have been conned into excepting as reasonable and to reject those behaviors - both in yourself and in others - as unacceptable." - R. Canup
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
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