I hate to say it or even admit it...but my heart was broken. Torn into pieces that I am now trying to put back together again, but it is so much harder than I anticipated. I thought it would be easier if I hated you...tried that... didn't work. Lord knows you have given me more than enough reason to hate you, but they just won't stick. My head and my heart always remember how happy being with you made me, and the butterfly feelings I had when you first told me you loved me.
Did you really love me? Or was that just another one of the many lies you told me? I really didn't understand how you fell in love with me so quickly, but now I realize you fall into love just as quickly as you fall out of love. You don't know what love really is do you? That's so sad, and as a consequence I was given your half-ass tainted with deceit love that I honestly never wanted. Don't get me wrong, I did want to be in love, but not with someone who couldn't ever truly love me back. You played me!
I've wasted so much time trying to figure out the best way to show you my love, to help you to understand that my love was real, but all along to you love was just another four letter word to you, just like f*ck and sh*t. Your love was clouded with insecurities and paranoia that I wasn't being satisfied, but in all honesty you satisfied me more than anyone ever had. Well your emotional short comings really f*cked with my emotions and now I feel like sh*t. I don't really know how to get over these feelings, or how to get over you, but I know I will eventually. I just hope you never ever put anyone through what you put me through!
I can't believe I wasted so much time with someone I was probably never meant to be with. Time is one thing you can never get back, and I wish so much that I didn't waste so much of it on you. You never deserved me, and I knew that but I ignored my own feelings because making you happy was more of a priority. I truly thought that I could make you happy, but the only thing that makes you happy is alcohol, drugs, and sex. You really couldn't handle a real woman like me, I guess that's why we fought all the time. I'm not controllable. I will not jump at your every whim. But I did truly love you and would have done anything for you...I hope you know that. Even after you did all of the horrible things you did to me...I never stopped loving you. My love is not like a faucet that can be turned off once the water begins to over flow. I loved you unconditionally, good and bad, and love like that is hard to come by. Yeah you lied to me from the beginning to cover the truth, but even when I discovered the true...the real ugly truth...I accepted you and loved you for you.
Maybe that was my mistake. I should have known better and should have had higher standards for myself. I mean, knowing what I do know about you, do I really want to be with someone like you? I have seem many great women ruined by the downfalls their significant others endured, and I would rather be alone than to let someone else's drug, lying, or infidelity habits ruin what I've worked so hard to achieve in my life. I have a lot going for myself and in order to prosper in life I need to be with someone who is going to motivate me to even greater heights, not bring me down with their "my mother didn't love me" bull ish.
It's true... you got issues, and you seem to let them control your life one way or another. Believe me when i tell you this...drinking yourself stupid every night will not make the pain you feel inside go away. Yeah it numbs the pain, but you will always carry that pain with you. The saddest part is that your issues will always effect your life and the relationships you have with other people. It doesn't take a genius to realize the reason you lie so much is because you are ashamed of who you are and what you have become.
But I will say this, I fell in love with who you are, not what you are. What you are is the lying, stealing, cheating PIECE OF SH*T. But who you are is the first man that ever took me apple picking, and the first man I poured my heart out to underneather a star filled sky on a late night at your parents house when they weren't home. You are the man I saw myself marrying and having a family with, and you are the one I loved the most!
Good bye!
Friday, February 25, 2011
Thursday, December 3, 2009
My Ex Was A SNAKE!
My ex was the worst person I've ever known. Not because of all the horrible things he did to me, but because it was just so easy for him to lie cheat and steal from me with very little remorse. He was the lowst of the low, like a snake, but here's the thing about snakes...
A snake is always nice to the mouse until the trusting mouse gets too close and then BANG! Two fangs in the neck. Now the snake may show great remorse for what he has done. He may cry and say that he considered the mouse to be his little friend. But the problem is the the snake will do the same thing over and over again.
Why is because he is a snake, and that's what snakes do. It is their nature. Sometimes a mouse may jump back and escape, but then the snake sobs and says how sorry he is. He says "please forgive me! I don't know what came over me?" The mouse falls for the tears and is then bitten and swallowed whole. Then the snake hates himself for eating him, but he is a snake and that is what he does.
There are people all around us that manipulate and destroy us because that is what they do. My ex was this type of person. It didn't matter how many wonderful things I did for him, he still ended up sunking his poisenous fangs into my heart. Take a lesson from me, someone who has been through it, no matter how much he may cry and feel bad about it, if you fall for the tears, say good bye to your dreams of having a happy life together. It's better to end the relationship before things get out of hand because you will get caught in their spider web of evil and they will not be happy until they suck the life out of you!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
A snake is always nice to the mouse until the trusting mouse gets too close and then BANG! Two fangs in the neck. Now the snake may show great remorse for what he has done. He may cry and say that he considered the mouse to be his little friend. But the problem is the the snake will do the same thing over and over again.
Why is because he is a snake, and that's what snakes do. It is their nature. Sometimes a mouse may jump back and escape, but then the snake sobs and says how sorry he is. He says "please forgive me! I don't know what came over me?" The mouse falls for the tears and is then bitten and swallowed whole. Then the snake hates himself for eating him, but he is a snake and that is what he does.
There are people all around us that manipulate and destroy us because that is what they do. My ex was this type of person. It didn't matter how many wonderful things I did for him, he still ended up sunking his poisenous fangs into my heart. Take a lesson from me, someone who has been through it, no matter how much he may cry and feel bad about it, if you fall for the tears, say good bye to your dreams of having a happy life together. It's better to end the relationship before things get out of hand because you will get caught in their spider web of evil and they will not be happy until they suck the life out of you!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Love is Blind
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. . .And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. - 1 Corinthians 13:4-13
Love is all of the above things, but love will also make you do crazy things or let you allow others to do crazy things to you. When your mind, body, and heart tells you that you love someone, that love for them can consume you completely and turn you into someone you're not if the relationship is unbalanced. I've experienced a love like this recently and my experience tells me that it's better to have loved and lost than to try to hold on and wait until it crashes and burns.
For those of you who may be blinded by love, there are warning signs you just have to pay attention. If you ever notice ANY RED FLAGS, you may want to proceed with extreme caution before you get your feelings involved. Some warning signs can be over looked if a person is honorable and has good intentions.
But how can you tell when a person is honorable or that they have good intentions? I don't have all the answers, but chances are that if a person has had a troubled past, they probably have a few issues they need to work out before they get involved in a relationship (that doesn't mean you can't date just don't make any commitments when there's a chance the person you're dating could have questionable characteristics). But that person may also be a selfish ignorant bastard and want to drag you down with all their baggage and drama (the saying is true, misery loves company), so in that case you won't know what you've gotten yourself into until it's too late!
You can't change someone's attitude or behavior after only a couple of months of dating. And sometimes, that person is just a lost cause, and no matter how much you love/care for them, they will never be able to love you back because they are DAMAGED GOODS and don't really know how to love! If you feel that you are dating someone who's issues are this severe, BREAK UP and get away from your partner as fast as you can!!!
No matter how much they beg or plead with you for forgiveness, or how many promises they make swearing they're going to change, never take them back after he/she has violated your trust or disrespected you or the commitment they made to you. The relationship and your feelings mean very little to your partner if they can't be a decent human being and KEEP IT REAL! Chances are that if they are lying, cheating, and behaving disrespectfully now, or have done so in the past, they have very little regard for the feelings of others, and this will likely never change, so end the relationship now before this evil tyrant ruins your life.
"Evil people know full well how to make us feel good and how to manipulate us so that they can gain power and control over us. The Bible says let light expose the bad things. Evil people want their secrets inside them. "If you are a good person you will meet many evil people in your life, you need to recognize them and their actions. More importantly you need to recognize which evil behaviors you have been conned into excepting as reasonable and to reject those behaviors - both in yourself and in others - as unacceptable." - R. Canup
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Love is all of the above things, but love will also make you do crazy things or let you allow others to do crazy things to you. When your mind, body, and heart tells you that you love someone, that love for them can consume you completely and turn you into someone you're not if the relationship is unbalanced. I've experienced a love like this recently and my experience tells me that it's better to have loved and lost than to try to hold on and wait until it crashes and burns.
For those of you who may be blinded by love, there are warning signs you just have to pay attention. If you ever notice ANY RED FLAGS, you may want to proceed with extreme caution before you get your feelings involved. Some warning signs can be over looked if a person is honorable and has good intentions.
But how can you tell when a person is honorable or that they have good intentions? I don't have all the answers, but chances are that if a person has had a troubled past, they probably have a few issues they need to work out before they get involved in a relationship (that doesn't mean you can't date just don't make any commitments when there's a chance the person you're dating could have questionable characteristics). But that person may also be a selfish ignorant bastard and want to drag you down with all their baggage and drama (the saying is true, misery loves company), so in that case you won't know what you've gotten yourself into until it's too late!
You can't change someone's attitude or behavior after only a couple of months of dating. And sometimes, that person is just a lost cause, and no matter how much you love/care for them, they will never be able to love you back because they are DAMAGED GOODS and don't really know how to love! If you feel that you are dating someone who's issues are this severe, BREAK UP and get away from your partner as fast as you can!!!
No matter how much they beg or plead with you for forgiveness, or how many promises they make swearing they're going to change, never take them back after he/she has violated your trust or disrespected you or the commitment they made to you. The relationship and your feelings mean very little to your partner if they can't be a decent human being and KEEP IT REAL! Chances are that if they are lying, cheating, and behaving disrespectfully now, or have done so in the past, they have very little regard for the feelings of others, and this will likely never change, so end the relationship now before this evil tyrant ruins your life.
"Evil people know full well how to make us feel good and how to manipulate us so that they can gain power and control over us. The Bible says let light expose the bad things. Evil people want their secrets inside them. "If you are a good person you will meet many evil people in your life, you need to recognize them and their actions. More importantly you need to recognize which evil behaviors you have been conned into excepting as reasonable and to reject those behaviors - both in yourself and in others - as unacceptable." - R. Canup
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Saturday, November 21, 2009
Don't Let Your Emotions Dictate Your Relationships!!!
I've noticed that I am not the only one who has bee having relationship issues and I feel it's time someone calls out the men who underestimate us!
I'm a hard working woman who is educated, cultured, and sophisticated as well as beautiful, but these days all men seem to be interested in are big titties and big asses. Well what about what attracts us to men? It's not only about the size of the wallet or the ship, or the motion in the ocean, there's a bigger picture involved when it comes to dating, ad through my experiences of trial ad error, I've learned that it's better to be picky and wait until the whole package comes along, than it is to settle for someone who's only partially what your looking for.
Don't get me wrong, I now that there is no such thing as the perfect man, so it's good to establish an interim hobby until one who is close enough to perfect comes along. But never make the interim man the main man because his short comings will be the death of the relationship. It's better to just look at your relationships as business partnerships instead of letting your emotions decide what's good for you. Keep it logical!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
I'm a hard working woman who is educated, cultured, and sophisticated as well as beautiful, but these days all men seem to be interested in are big titties and big asses. Well what about what attracts us to men? It's not only about the size of the wallet or the ship, or the motion in the ocean, there's a bigger picture involved when it comes to dating, ad through my experiences of trial ad error, I've learned that it's better to be picky and wait until the whole package comes along, than it is to settle for someone who's only partially what your looking for.
Don't get me wrong, I now that there is no such thing as the perfect man, so it's good to establish an interim hobby until one who is close enough to perfect comes along. But never make the interim man the main man because his short comings will be the death of the relationship. It's better to just look at your relationships as business partnerships instead of letting your emotions decide what's good for you. Keep it logical!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Online Stalkers
I've never been one for blogging until I had to create this blog for a class I was taking, but I finally got a response to one of my posts that I left over a year ago, and i believe it's my ex-boyfriend who is stalking me online.
I'm really confused as to why he would do this, especially when he cheated on me and ruined our relationship with his lies about the fact that he had a girl on the side for over a year while we were together. The worst part about it is he keeps trying to play the victim by accusing me of cheating. He's living by a double standard, so that meant it was okay for him to go out and meet women and buy them drinks and give out his number, but it wasn't okay for me to accept a free drink when I was offered one or network and make new acquaintances. And he was so jealous and insecure that it was ridiculous. I couldn't go visit my girls or go out without him going through my phone and checking for new numbers or calling me every 10 minutes to question me about where I was, and who I was with.
I was never insecure enough to go through my ex's stuff, but I did want to give him a taste of his own medicine, so I went through his phone to see what i could find. And of course I found out that he wasn't half as considerate of my feelings as he expected me to be of his. He had been giving his number out to bitches at his job and ended up letting one of them live with him while we were together. He had this whole elaborate scheme to keep me from finding out about his side girl where he'd hide the girls clothing in his dirty hamper or under his bed so that I wouldn't notice, but eventually I did and that's when the lies started pouring out of his mouth. He made up this story about how the clothes were a friend of a friends who had no where to store it, and he even got his brother to lie for him. But lies are like a disease for which there is no cure, and once a liar, always a liar because it's easier to make up your own reality than it is to accept and deal with real reality.
Since he was caught red handed, why couldn't he man-up and just admit what he did? That's why I ended it once and for all. I know the saying goes that if you let something go and it comes back to you it's yours, but sometimes when it comes back it's yours and 2-3 other people's as well. Well I don't want him, so whoever does can have that headache.
I still don't understand why when it's over does the cheater still try to hang on? That just never made any sense to me! If i was the woman you wanted to be with, why couldn't you keep your dick in your pants? I obviously wasn't enough for you, so go find someone, two, or three who are.
Why is it okay for a man to ask for a commitment from their women and later break that commitment. Just do yourself a favor and don't make any commitments until you're sure you know what you want. It's that simple. Men don't need to tell women that he loves her just to sleep with her anymore, we all have needs, so if you're straight up I'm sure something can be worked out where no one gets hurt. Or if you're in a committed relationship but feel a strong attraction to someone else, break up until you figure out what you want and spare everyone the pain of having to deal with your lies and deceitfulness, & you'll get a lot more respect in the end and because no one can get mad since they had no claim to you. Games and tricks are for kids, so stop playing around!
I trusted & loved this man, and he violated that trust on more than one occasion, so why can't he just let me go so I can move on with my life. After all the hurt and pain he caused me, why doesn't he just go be with the women he cheated on me with, and leave me the hell alone? I understand people make mistakes that they later regret, but if he truly regrets losing me, he would've kept it real from the beginning. I would've rather broken up so that he could mess around and have him come back later after he realized the other woman doesn't compare to me, than for him to lie and cheat on me behind my back. What hurts even more is that he continues to deny that he has any involvement with this woman, even though I know that too is a lie. This chic even heard his lies for herself when we banded together and made a secret 3 way call to him, yet and still she continues to deal with him (although I was guilty of that for a while 2 so I guess we're just 2 stupid ass bitches). But I've learned from my mistake, which was to ever trust a piece of crap like my ex! And I pledge that the next time around I won't rush into a relationship just because the man I'm dating tells me that i'm the only one he wants to be with.
I didn't want to, but he forced me to end the relationship because no body wants to be with someone who lies, cheats, and steals, so if that is you who is sending me anonymous responses to my posts, please cease and desists! You had your chance to be with me, and you messed that up to have an affair with someone who you don't even really like! After all the drama you put me through, enough is enough. I did truly love you and I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt even though you didn't deserve it, but you made a fool of me!
It would've been different if you were a real man and could be honest with the women you deal with by telling them that you have other women of interest in your life, but that's to honorable for a scum bag like you. I think it's pretty pathetic for a man to feel like he has to lie and tell women that he loves them and wants to marry them in order for them to stick around. If you can't say what you really mean, and mean what you say, you're one sorry ass excuse of a man! And I want nothing more to do with you, so please...
STOP STALKING ME!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
I'm really confused as to why he would do this, especially when he cheated on me and ruined our relationship with his lies about the fact that he had a girl on the side for over a year while we were together. The worst part about it is he keeps trying to play the victim by accusing me of cheating. He's living by a double standard, so that meant it was okay for him to go out and meet women and buy them drinks and give out his number, but it wasn't okay for me to accept a free drink when I was offered one or network and make new acquaintances. And he was so jealous and insecure that it was ridiculous. I couldn't go visit my girls or go out without him going through my phone and checking for new numbers or calling me every 10 minutes to question me about where I was, and who I was with.
I was never insecure enough to go through my ex's stuff, but I did want to give him a taste of his own medicine, so I went through his phone to see what i could find. And of course I found out that he wasn't half as considerate of my feelings as he expected me to be of his. He had been giving his number out to bitches at his job and ended up letting one of them live with him while we were together. He had this whole elaborate scheme to keep me from finding out about his side girl where he'd hide the girls clothing in his dirty hamper or under his bed so that I wouldn't notice, but eventually I did and that's when the lies started pouring out of his mouth. He made up this story about how the clothes were a friend of a friends who had no where to store it, and he even got his brother to lie for him. But lies are like a disease for which there is no cure, and once a liar, always a liar because it's easier to make up your own reality than it is to accept and deal with real reality.
Since he was caught red handed, why couldn't he man-up and just admit what he did? That's why I ended it once and for all. I know the saying goes that if you let something go and it comes back to you it's yours, but sometimes when it comes back it's yours and 2-3 other people's as well. Well I don't want him, so whoever does can have that headache.
I still don't understand why when it's over does the cheater still try to hang on? That just never made any sense to me! If i was the woman you wanted to be with, why couldn't you keep your dick in your pants? I obviously wasn't enough for you, so go find someone, two, or three who are.
Why is it okay for a man to ask for a commitment from their women and later break that commitment. Just do yourself a favor and don't make any commitments until you're sure you know what you want. It's that simple. Men don't need to tell women that he loves her just to sleep with her anymore, we all have needs, so if you're straight up I'm sure something can be worked out where no one gets hurt. Or if you're in a committed relationship but feel a strong attraction to someone else, break up until you figure out what you want and spare everyone the pain of having to deal with your lies and deceitfulness, & you'll get a lot more respect in the end and because no one can get mad since they had no claim to you. Games and tricks are for kids, so stop playing around!
I trusted & loved this man, and he violated that trust on more than one occasion, so why can't he just let me go so I can move on with my life. After all the hurt and pain he caused me, why doesn't he just go be with the women he cheated on me with, and leave me the hell alone? I understand people make mistakes that they later regret, but if he truly regrets losing me, he would've kept it real from the beginning. I would've rather broken up so that he could mess around and have him come back later after he realized the other woman doesn't compare to me, than for him to lie and cheat on me behind my back. What hurts even more is that he continues to deny that he has any involvement with this woman, even though I know that too is a lie. This chic even heard his lies for herself when we banded together and made a secret 3 way call to him, yet and still she continues to deal with him (although I was guilty of that for a while 2 so I guess we're just 2 stupid ass bitches). But I've learned from my mistake, which was to ever trust a piece of crap like my ex! And I pledge that the next time around I won't rush into a relationship just because the man I'm dating tells me that i'm the only one he wants to be with.
I didn't want to, but he forced me to end the relationship because no body wants to be with someone who lies, cheats, and steals, so if that is you who is sending me anonymous responses to my posts, please cease and desists! You had your chance to be with me, and you messed that up to have an affair with someone who you don't even really like! After all the drama you put me through, enough is enough. I did truly love you and I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt even though you didn't deserve it, but you made a fool of me!
It would've been different if you were a real man and could be honest with the women you deal with by telling them that you have other women of interest in your life, but that's to honorable for a scum bag like you. I think it's pretty pathetic for a man to feel like he has to lie and tell women that he loves them and wants to marry them in order for them to stick around. If you can't say what you really mean, and mean what you say, you're one sorry ass excuse of a man! And I want nothing more to do with you, so please...
STOP STALKING ME!
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Beer Breath
THE SOCIAL ADVISOR: For Club Crowd and the Socially Conscious
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
"Common sense is not so common."
* Voltaire, Dictionnaire Philosophique (1764)
For Club Crowd and the Socially Conscious
I wanted to take a minute to talk about my experiences clubbing this weekend. I was at a night club this past weekend, which I love to do occassionally, and I noticed a few things that I just have to speak on. My hopes are that whom ever reads this blog, either guy or girl, would be able to take my experiences and apply them to their own lives where ever they see fit.
So, I was at a club this weekend (i don't want to say where and give out free publicity on my blog because I did not really enjoy this club that much) with a small group of friends and associates. We decided to go out on a Friday night after work which may have been a bad idea since the energy I had was limited, but then again, Friday nights are good nights to good out and mingle with the young professional crowd. I didn't get to the club until after 12am, but that's normally when things begin to jump off here in the 'Bean'. The club I was at had 4 floors, and they were all packed. There was a lot of variety, variety in music and the people, and if you wanted to just mingle, the bottom 2 floors were made for you. If you're anything like me, you go to the clubs to dance, so the top 2 floors were where the music was bumping.
One of the first things I noticed is there were a lot of girls dancing, and a lot of guys standing around the outskirts of the dance floor observing the drunk ladies shake their groove things. Now I understand that their are some guys who are a little self conscience about the fact that they are great dancers, well it's time to let go of your fears guys, because their were some less attractive and untalented dancing men all over the dance floor getting some rump shaking action, but for some reason, I noticed that the more attractive guys were posted up on a wall, or sitting at a booth, watching all of the action take place. I noticed a few hot guys eyeing me, but i just don't feel comfortable asking a guy to dance with me. I know it's old fashioned, but I am still a firm believer in men making the first move. Maybe they were intimidated by a good looking Black women, I know that the consensus is that we tend to be a little more aggressive, but we still want someone to take charge every once and a while.
After a while a young black man approached me and politely asked me to dance. He was very courteous and seemed to have a professional career since he was all suited out, but when he came over and spoke in my ear, I could help but smell his breath which smelled horrible. I noticed he was holding a beer, and once I caught a whiff of his breath, i could tell the stench was caused by his choice of beverage, so i have decided to dedicate this first blog to him.
One thing that kills me is how guys love beer, but they never take into account that beer makes your breath smell terribly. Bad breath is one of my biggest pet-peeves, but I won't make it seem like I'm perfect and have never had bad breath. Here are some of the general causes and types of bad breath that most everyone has experienced:
1) Morning Breath
2) Cigarette Breath
3) Empty Stomach Breath (When your stomach is empty the smell of the gases in your stomach taint the smell of your breath)
4) Onion/Garlic Breath
5) Beer Breath (second worse)
6) Gingivitis/Halitosis Breath (worst of all)
Almost all of these causes for bad breath can be cured with a simple stick of gum, so if you are one of those guys who have to have a beer when they go out, or even if you're a lady who like a beer every now and again, remember to buy a pack of gum as well. You never want to be caught off guard after having a beer because the minute you take that first swig, you may have to talk to someone or someone may want to talk to you, and there is no bigger turn off than a guy or girl with smelly breath.
Take my advise!
Quiana
So, I was at a club this weekend (i don't want to say where and give out free publicity on my blog because I did not really enjoy this club that much) with a small group of friends and associates. We decided to go out on a Friday night after work which may have been a bad idea since the energy I had was limited, but then again, Friday nights are good nights to good out and mingle with the young professional crowd. I didn't get to the club until after 12am, but that's normally when things begin to jump off here in the 'Bean'. The club I was at had 4 floors, and they were all packed. There was a lot of variety, variety in music and the people, and if you wanted to just mingle, the bottom 2 floors were made for you. If you're anything like me, you go to the clubs to dance, so the top 2 floors were where the music was bumping.
One of the first things I noticed is there were a lot of girls dancing, and a lot of guys standing around the outskirts of the dance floor observing the drunk ladies shake their groove things. Now I understand that their are some guys who are a little self conscience about the fact that they are great dancers, well it's time to let go of your fears guys, because their were some less attractive and untalented dancing men all over the dance floor getting some rump shaking action, but for some reason, I noticed that the more attractive guys were posted up on a wall, or sitting at a booth, watching all of the action take place. I noticed a few hot guys eyeing me, but i just don't feel comfortable asking a guy to dance with me. I know it's old fashioned, but I am still a firm believer in men making the first move. Maybe they were intimidated by a good looking Black women, I know that the consensus is that we tend to be a little more aggressive, but we still want someone to take charge every once and a while.
After a while a young black man approached me and politely asked me to dance. He was very courteous and seemed to have a professional career since he was all suited out, but when he came over and spoke in my ear, I could help but smell his breath which smelled horrible. I noticed he was holding a beer, and once I caught a whiff of his breath, i could tell the stench was caused by his choice of beverage, so i have decided to dedicate this first blog to him.
One thing that kills me is how guys love beer, but they never take into account that beer makes your breath smell terribly. Bad breath is one of my biggest pet-peeves, but I won't make it seem like I'm perfect and have never had bad breath. Here are some of the general causes and types of bad breath that most everyone has experienced:
1) Morning Breath
2) Cigarette Breath
3) Empty Stomach Breath (When your stomach is empty the smell of the gases in your stomach taint the smell of your breath)
4) Onion/Garlic Breath
5) Beer Breath (second worse)
6) Gingivitis/Halitosis Breath (worst of all)
Almost all of these causes for bad breath can be cured with a simple stick of gum, so if you are one of those guys who have to have a beer when they go out, or even if you're a lady who like a beer every now and again, remember to buy a pack of gum as well. You never want to be caught off guard after having a beer because the minute you take that first swig, you may have to talk to someone or someone may want to talk to you, and there is no bigger turn off than a guy or girl with smelly breath.
Take my advise!
Quiana
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